Our birth day started at 1.30 when Bola’s waters broke. We went back to bed only to be awoken at 4.30 by surges. It seemed that things were starting to happen so, after breakfast, we dropped Freya off at her Aunt’s and contacted the midwife. When she arrived, she checked Bola over and said that, given the broken waters, we’d need to go into hospital to be monitored.
The hospital switched into their standard, precautionary mode and told us that we needed to be admitted for a hospital birth. This wasn’t our intention (we hadn’t even packed a hospital bag) and, after some negotiations, they agreed to let us go on condition that we reported back for further monitoring by 19.00 latest.
By this point, the surges had slowed right down and had almost stopped and, when we got home, we decided to make the 10 minute walk into town to get something some lunch.
As we sat in Nando’s, at 14.00, the surges came back with a vengeance and Bola knew that we needed the food to go. It was a long walk home as the surges were coming every few minutes and were growing in intensity. Bola was brilliant, using the breathing through the surges and, whilst there was lots of concern from passers-by (“you’re not going to have the baby here are you?”), we kept calm.
As soon as we made it home Bola got into the birthing pool and we worked together through the surges with the Affirmations CD playing in the background; being in the pool definitely helped.
The midwives arrived around 16.00, examined Bola in the pool and confirmed that she was already fully dilated and that baby was doing fine.
Our birth plan asked for minimum intervention so they largely left us to it, waiting in another room and coming through every now and again to check on Bola and the baby, while we worked on breathing the baby out.
This was the hardest stage of the birth for Bola. She had reached a mental block and was getting tired so, after a while, we asked for more help from the midwives and they got Bola out of the pool for the very last stage. Bola drew on her reserves of energy and all the positive thinking she learned and our gorgeous little boy, Theo Jacob, made it into the world at exactly 18.00.
He was very calm and settled quietly onto his Mum’s chest while the midwives cleaned up. By 19.00 all the checks were completed and we were on our own with Theo. It was wonderful being able to sit in the comfort of our own flat with a glass of champagne and toasted his safe arrival and what we’d done together.
The whole experience was amazing - so much more real than the typical hospital birth where things are out of your control and where medicine manages the process – which we could not have achieved without the confidence we’d gained from Victoria’s hypno-birthing course, and the lessons we’d learned. We are now passionate advocates of the alternative way."
As told by Simon, father of baby Theo.